Happy Mother's Day! If you're a mom, grandma, guardian, physical, mental or emotional mom-stand-in, this weekend is all about you.
That is, unless you spend it sans kids.
Hear me out. For the past six years, I've noticed that along with the day to honor Mom, also comes the mother of all debates.
Is it okay to spend Mother's Day without your children?
Chances are, you have an opinion about this -- maybe an intense one. But since when is it okay for moms to use the holiday as an opportunity to judge and criticize each other? Just ask around! I've talked with women who pretty much base a mom's worth on whether she spends time with her family on Mother's Day or instead, may choose to take on the day alone or with girlfriends.
I've experienced my own Mother's Day evolution...
2008 I was vocal about my disappointment in other moms who spend the day apart from her babies.
2010 While I still couldn't imagine the day without my family, I listened with an open mind as a colleague explained why she spends Mother's Day anywhere but with her kids (see: stay at home mom with no support).
2011 This year, I think I might be a little bit jealous of those celebrating with a yoga class and massage. Doesn't that sound just dreamy?
But when it comes down to it for me, I enjoy spending Mother's Day with my kids. Not only is it a day when we disconnect from the rest of the world, it's also a perfect time to teach them some life lessons.
1. They're not the only ones who exist in the world, as much as they think it revolves around them.
2. Other people... even moms (gasp!)... need and deserve to be taken care of.
3. Did I mention they're not the only ones on the face of the earth?
As for that day off? Yes, please! Maybe my kids will catch wind of this post and take the hint. (Psst... Jeff MacDougall, it's free and it's the perfect size.)
How will you spend Mother's Day?